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Divorce is something that most couples truly hope they never have to go through. On your wedding day you, and usually throughout the first few months and years of your marriage, you really do feel as if you will be with your spouse, ‘till death do us part’. But then it happens. The flaws of your spouse become increasingly evident and unbearable. You start to feel as though you don’t even know this person that you had been so in love with at one time. It becomes apparent that there just isn’t any way that you can spend the rest of your life with this person. [Read: The Truth about Heartbreak ]
Moving on from divorce can be incredibly tough for the two spouses involved but it becomes even more complicated because it’s never just two people being hurt. It results in a lot of hurt feelings from both sides of the family, and can have a devastating effect on any children involved.
Here is a look at a few ways to make moving on from divorce at least somewhat smoother of a process:
1) Control Your Emotions The Best You Can
This one will seem next to impossible because divorce is a time of extreme emotion. Sadness, anger, and a need for revenge in some situations take over your mind and begin to control your thoughts. It can be incredibly tough but this is a time when you really need to control your emotions and not let them turn into extreme action that will potentially hurt your future.
We’re not telling you not to cry, or even not to have a slight emotional breakdown. But be sure that you understand how vulnerable you are and don’t allow this state to control your actions or the way you live your life. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but it’s necessary…
2) Put Yourself In Positive Situations
This probably seems stupid and obvious but it’s absolutely essential to your emotional health, especially when you have this incredible feeling of loss. Listen to your favorite music, participate in your favorite sport or physical activity, be around people that make you smile, anything and everything that puts you in a positive mindset. Flood your mind with positive experiences and thoughts to make this smooth as possible.
3) Understand That It’s Going To Be Difficult
Understand that your journey through the divorce process is going to be tough, real tough. Don’t try to run away from this fact. This is a huge change in your life, and everything that happens during this time is just not going to feel very comfortable for you.
Embrace the positives in your life and help them transition you out of your current phase. Don’t try to continually act like this has no affect on you but instead realize that although the process will be tough, you’ll make it through it and become a stronger person in the process. [Read: How to Get Over Heartbreak]