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Romantic love differs greatly from the other kinds of love we feel for the people we care about in our lives. Sure, you’ve got love for your family members; you care deeply for them, and vow to be there in times of happiness as well as in times of hardship. The same may be said for your friends – the love is strong, but is also strictly platonic. However, sometimes we feel a platonic love and one day decide we want to take it to the next level. Ever felt that before?
These kinds of relationships can be tricky – do you risk the friendship by telling your friend you have romantic feelings for them? Or do you suffer in silence and keep your partner-in-crime? If you want to take a friendship to the next level and go from platonic love to romantic love, here’s a few things you can do to gauge whether or not they may be feeling the same way:
Hang Out One-On-One: You may already be doing this with your friend, but if you are discovering new intentions, it may be best to have alone time with one another and see if you can get that conversation going. Maybe you can plan-a-date-but-not-really-a-date type of activity, perhaps something like ice-skating or getting drinks, that could also be done by those in love.
Ask Questions About What Kinds of Girls He’s Into: Don’t pry too much, especially since you’re probably close enough with him to know what he’s looking for in a partner. See if he describes you. If he’s way off from you in what he’s looking for, and doesn’t seem to hint that you may possess some of the qualities he admires in a romantic partner, he’s probably not keen on the idea of stepping it up a level.
Hint At It With a Joke: Yes, it’s so lame, but it’s always interesting to see the reaction. “Hey, would it be weird if we ever dated?” Hahaha, he might say. If he’s quiet about it after the initial laugh, he could be harboring some unspoken feelings, or just feel terribly awkward about the whole thing. He could warm up to the idea, or he might even try to explain why the two of you could never have a romantic love, in which case, you know there’s probably a slim chance of taking it up a level.
These are just a few simple pointers. Not all friendships are destined for the next level of partnership. Of course, you could always be blunt with him. That will cut straight through the hints and sugarcoating, which men typically don’t pick up on. However, before you come straight out with your confession, consider what it will do to your friendship in the long-run. If a romance doesn’t work out, you don’t want to lose your best friend. Feel out the situation, and if it feels right, go for it!